The post that trumpets the joys of living alone.
I have lived alone for about a month now after buying my first place. It has been something I’ve been desperate for for years now, so I was always going to enjoy solo living. Here’s what I think are the best bits…
1. Enjoy the silence
I’m incredibly noise intolerant. Even living alone, as I’m in a flat in a terraced house, there is some noise coming from the neighbours, but it’s not too intrusive. Nowhere near as bad as housemates thundering around the house at inconvenient times of the morning and night.
2. No resentment over the cleaning
My housemates were not the best at keeping the place clean. And after a while, I became apathetic too as I resented being the only one that ever cleaned the bathroom. Now I’m in control of my own cleaning arrangements I’ve actually decided to get a cleaner. It was something I always wanted us to get as a shared house but the others never seemed that keen. Getting a cleaner may not seem very frugal for someone pursuing financial independence, but in my view it fits quite well. To me, FI is all about prioritising time over money, and taking the house work out of my weekend seems like money well spent to me.
3. No resentment over shared household expenses
As my post last week about the cost of owning v renting showed, it’s a hell of a lot more expensive to live alone. But at least everything I buy is just for me. I found in a shared house, there were certain household expenses that I seemed to be buying a disproportionate amount of. Much like the cleaning, this just built resentment. Toilet roll was the big one. I found that if I didn’t buy the toilet roll, we just ran out completely. Why did no-one else have the foresight to see we would soon run out?! Why is it that toilet roll causes so much friction in shared houses?!
4. You don’t have to work within other people’s schedules
I can shower when I want, use the washing machine when I want, cook when I want. It’s delightful. Need to go into work half an hour early? No need to message the housemates to check if they can adjust the shower schedule for me. Head downstairs with my laundry and hear that someone has jumped ahead and has put their clothes in the machine first? No more irrational rage that they dare to use the facilities in their own home.
5. Poo in peace
OK, a bit of a scatological one here. I’m not even joking when I say that one of the best things about living alone is not having the fear of your housemates hear you go to the loo. When I was in a shared house I’d try to time having a shower so the noise of the shower would drown out the sound of those “longer” lavatory visits. No more!
More generally, I just like myself better now I’m living alone. As a housemate I had become a miserable, grumpy, uptight person that I didn’t recognise (much). Now I’m happier and more relaxed. I’m not sure I can ever imagine living with another person again.
Now for balance check out The 7 Worst Things About Living Alone (I know, how on earth have I found more bad than good things!).